Family Constellations in Sussex
Personal and or transgenerational healing, in Lewes.
Family constellations are about finding our right place in our families or wider life. Many people feel on a deep level, disconnected or “not in the right place”.
Family constellation work helps us see ourselves as part of a wider system, through connecting with our grandparents and great-grandparents – even if we have never met them.
Through this work participants recognise family patterns and influences on our lives. By seeing things as they are you are able to live your life with more connection to your true self.
Constellation sare nothing to do with star signs or horoscopes! "Constellations" is a translation from German where the word means placement in relation to others. This method is becoming more widely used both in a personal development/psychotherapeutic context and also within business. In fact anywhere where people are trying to make sense of or improve human systems.
Workshops are held in a confidential and safe environment.
People who attend a workshop come away with a deeply held experience of honour and respect, a stronger sense of connection with themselves and their family of origin, and a "touching of the soul".
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Do I have to have an issue?
No, you do not have to attend with a burning issue. People participate in a workshop to witness the work and often this can be enough to help resolve issues in your own life without doing a full constellation of your own. Or you may find things start to bubble away in a workshop when witnessing or representing in someone elses constellation.This can often be the best place to start.
What is representing? How will I know I can represent?
Anyone who participates in a constellation workshop may be called upon to "represent" in a constellation. Representing simply means to stand in the place in which you are put in the room and report back on any felt sense. Although people can worry they will not know how to represent, actually everybody who has ever participated has been able to "represent" accurately. You are of course at liberty not to represent if you prefer.
What about confidentiality?
Confidentiality is a given in a constellation group. We come together in a group of mutual support and respect and participants are expected to treat all other group members with utmost respect and civility. Whilst we may wish to go away and report on what we have witnessed and the impact it has on ourselves, group particpants are expected always to respect the confidentiality of participants and not speak about their experiences in any way which may identify somebody or their issues.
Further information about Family Contellations:
The method is used to create movement in situations which are "stuck" and allows solutions to emerge. People use the systemic constellation method to resolve issues in their personal emotional life, including relationship difficulties with partners, parents, children, or siblings. The method is also used to cast new light on professional issues, either for an individual within a work context, or for a whole organisation such as a school or work-place.
In this particular workshop we will focus on family constellation work and the deep connections and loyalties we hold with our ancestors.
The basic tenet of systemic family constellations is that all have a place in the family. If someone is excluded from the family - for example through shame or unfortunate birth circumstances, a descendant will "re-member" that person, even without being conscious of their ancestor's existence, and unconsciously try to share their fate.
The systemic approach both liberates a client from feeling responsible for issues that are not theirs and also enables a client to take responsibility for issues that are theirs and theirs alone. This is not unlike psychotherapy, and constellation work grew out of the therapy movement. The difference in the approach is that by using representatives to model the client's circumstances, the work enables hidden truths and loyalties to be recognised.
Participants and witnesses frequently find the work profoundly enlightening and healing. Participating merely requires an open heart and a preparedness to stand in a circle and represent someone else. When representing, participants will be asked to report their feelings and experiences to the facilitator. This could range from "absolutely nothing" to something obscure like, "well I only want to look over there at that corner of the room" to "I am so angry with that person there I want to hit them." From this feedback and general observation, a trained and skilled facilitator may move representatives or give them sentences to say, that may be quite contrary to what the participant feels they would like to say. These actions help to move things on.