'Bad Sex' : Better Sex Workshop Series 2/4

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Lighthouse - Edinburgh’s Radical Bookshop

43-45 West Nicolson Street

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EH8 9DB

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The second of our four Better Sex Workshop series with Ruth Eliot - explores the complexity of sexual consent and much more.

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Part two of a series of workshops (More on Workshops 1, 3 and 4) that explores good sex, bad sex, what even is sex? and how to get better at it, this series is an exciting opportunity to investigate sex, pleasure, trauma and consent with a professional sex educator!

At this event we explore the following:

What actually is consent? What does it look like? What does it sound like? What does it feel like?

What is rape?

What is bad sex?

What does it mean to be coerced?

What’s the difference between seduction and coercion?

What gives someone the capacity to consent?

What constitutes ‘reasonable grounds’ to believe consent has been granted?

How do you know if someone has the capacity to consent if you don’t have the capacity to consent?

What gives someone power in a sexual encounter?

Is it possible to consent to sex that you do not want to have?

Are there better or worse reasons to consent to sex?

This workshop explores the complexity of sexual consent and the differences between good sex, bad sex and rape- a personally and politically fraught subject that is too often handled without nuance, compassion or kindness. Asking these frank and uncomfortable questions is crucial to cultivating a thoughtful and honest understanding of what it actually means to consent to have sex with someone, and what it means not to.

We will-

- engage in discussions, activities and personal reflection to explore the questions above

- be facilitated with sensitivity to the diversity of experience in the room (including survivors, bystanders and perpetrators)

- cultivate an atmosphere that is open-minded, kind and respectful to a variety of perspectives, sexual proclivities and ideas

- have a chill zone available throughout the workshop where anyone is welcome to retreat to if they feel overwhelmed / triggered

- have a No Questions Asked policy for anyone who leaves the workshop at any point

We won’t-

- do any sexual activity of any kind

- be asked or expected to share any personal information about our own sexual experiences

- assume any knowledge prior to the workshop

- expect people to be familiar with any specific terminology

[This is the second of 4 workshops:

Workshop 1: The Sexual Script (Sunday 8th September) / Workshop 2: ‘Bad Sex’ (Sunday 15th September) / Workshop 3: Trauma isn’t Sexy (Sunday 22nd September) / Workshop 4: Pleasure (Sunday 29th September)

We strongly recommend attending them as a set, although you can attend individual sessions or just a few in any combination - the only exception is Workshop 4, for which you must have attended Workshop 1. ]

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These workshops will be run by Ruth Eliot (she/her), here's a wee bio and you can find out more on her website.

Ruth is an independent trainer and workshop facilitator in the field of sex-positive, pleasure-centred and feminist gender-based violence prevention. She has extensive experience teaching and facilitating about sexual violence, gender, consent, rape culture and pleasure. Ruth’s workshops are discursive, nonjudgmental, trauma- informed and sensitive to the statistical reality that there will always be survivors in the room. Ruth’s workshops are accessible to all- no prior knowledge or understanding of the topics is assumed- and she prioritises empowering all attendees to fully participate and engage.

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The workshops will operate under the bookshop's safe space policy, available HERE.

Remember you can buy your tickets in the shop & save yourself the eventbrite booking fee :P

The bookshop is wheelchair accessible, events are seated and speakers use microphones throughout their events. We have further details about accessibility HERE, or feel free to get in touch, we're happy to help however we can!

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Lighthouse - Edinburgh’s Radical Bookshop

43-45 West Nicolson Street

Edinburgh

EH8 9DB

United Kingdom

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Eventbrite's fee is nonrefundable.

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