Boundaries Without Control: Understanding and Communicating Feelings in ENM

If you’ve ever wondered where the line is between a boundary and a rule, felt the urge to control your partner to soothe your own discomfort, or dismissed your pain because you feel unintitled or like a 'bad' polyamorous person, you’re not alone. Whether you’re new to non-monogamy or years into it, navigating agreements, expectations, and emotional safety can be a minefield — especially when fear, jealousy, or past trauma are involved.

This webinar is designed to help you create and communicate healthy, values-based boundaries as well as give you tools to support navigating complicated feelings in non-monogamous relationships.

We'll explore:

• Recreating structure - Our journey of reprogramming our monogamous expectations
• Am I 'allowed' to ask for this? - the difference between boundaries and rules
• How to recognise the fear beneath the feeling — is it jealousy, or something else?
• Using your core values to guide decisions, rather than fear or pressure
• Tools to manage discomfort vs actual pain
• When your brain says yes but your heart still hearts
• How to create a secure base within flexible dynamics
• Why communication isn’t everything — but it’s damn close
• Co-creating clear relationship agreements that feel supportive, not stifling
• How to know when it's all too much- Non-monogamy isn't for everyone, and that's ok

Who it’s for:

• People currently in or exploring non-monogamous relationships
• Anyone struggling with boundary-setting, emotional regulation, or communication in open relationships
• Curious individuals wanting to build stronger, more secure connections.

🎁 What's included:

• 90-minute live webinar with Alice and Matthew Lovegood (recording available for 30 days)
• Q&A segment to get your burning questions answered
• Optional digital resource bundle to go deeper after the session

About Your Facilitators:

Alice Lovegood (she/her): An award-winning Sex Educator, conscious kink practitioner, and content creator passionate about destigmatising sex, kink, and non-traditional relationships. Queer, polyamorous, married and a mother of three, she blends lived experience with trauma-informed education to help people reconnect with their bodies, desires, and power so they can live authentically. She writes at Bettersx.blog and hosts Bound to Meet, a popular kink speed social event that centres connection and consent. Alice creates space for people to explore pleasure with curiosity, courage, and community.

Matthew Lovegood (He/ Him), Alice's husband and partner of 11 years, also a certified conscious kink practitioner and sex educator with a passion for psychology in kink and relationships. Having embarked on their non-monogamous journey 2 years ago they have learned the importance of honest and realistic support and advice and strive to provide that.

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*We have used the term non-monogamy throughout because it can be overwhelming to know where under non-monogamy we fall. At Bettersx we believe it is not up to anyone else to dictate or decide who or how we identify. The information and education shared will likely be useful for all non- monogamous people but most helpful for those who are/ are seeking polyamory or relationship anarchy.