Couples & Family Work through the lens of The Penny Model.

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An Invitation to Deeper Connection

Couples & Family Work - Through the Lens of The Penny Model

At the heart of couples and family work is something simple—and profound:
As humans we need to be heard, seen, and understood.

When we are not heard or understood, small emotional misalignments begin to accumulate.
In The Penny Model - Revised book, these moments are the “pennies” we accumilate—times we say yes when we mean no (or visa/versa) or experience a no, whilst seeking a yes to being heard and understood, stay silent instead of speaking or sharing our authentic emotional experience, or protect ourselves through fear rather than truth. Over time, these pennies build weight, leading to rupture, conflict, distance, and disconnection.

This session offers a compassionate space to slow down and address those moments and explore how these patterns and coping strategies can be changed.

Therapy, in this context, is the support to speak the unspoken and express the unexpressed—to give voice to what has been unsayable, unfelt, or suppressed. It is an invitation into greater intimacy:
IN-TO-ME-SEE.

Together, we will explore how fear—often rooted in historical trauma, limiting beliefs, or inherited emotional rules—quietly shapes our reactions and relationships. These fears may be hidden, denied, forgotten, or long suppressed, yet they continue to drive disconnection.

Using tools drawn from The Penny Model - Revised, this session focuses on resolving difference and repairing rupture through the ownership and sharing of core emotions, particularly sadness—the emotional home of grief, love, depression, and addiction.

When sadness is allowed and shared, connection becomes possible again. From there, other emotions can be explored and owned without blame or defensiveness.

We all want connection. What gets in the way is rarely a lack of love—but unspoken fear, internalised beliefs, and emotional pennies, which left unattended, can lead to the very separation we are trying to avoid.

In this session, you will gain insights to:

• Recognise emotional misalignment as it happens.
• How sharing ones intermacy ( In-To-Me-See), can support a more authenic relationship, with self and others.
• Repair rupture with honesty and care.
• Support connection at home, at work, and within the safe space.

This session is experiential, reflective, and grounded in real relational dynamics and suitable for all (in or seeking a healthy relationship with the self or others).

Please note: This session will not be recorded.

What to bring: Loose leaf pieces of paper - which we may or may not be used.

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Event Name: Couples Work: Through the Lens of the Penny Model - 2025

Section 1: Presenter Communication

Clarity and Effectiveness

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(Scale: 1 – Very Poor, 5 – Excellent)

Average Rating: 5

Practical Application

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Average Rating: 5

Section 2: Participant Feedback on Communication Style

What worked well

What aspects of the presenter’s communication style did you find particularly effective or

challenging?

Content is awesome. Communication style a teaching model for a therapist.

Event Name:Dialogue With the Deceased

Date:2025-11-21

Section 1: Presenter Communication

Clarity and Effectiveness

How would you rate the presenter’s ability to communicate ideas clearly and effectively?

(Scale: 1 – Very Poor, 5 – Excellent)

Average Rating: 5

Practical Application

How well did the presenter demonstrate practical applications of the content?

(Scale: 1 – Not at All, 5 – Extremely Well)

Average Rating: 5

Section 2: Participant Feedback on Communication Style

What worked well

What aspects of the presenter’s communication style did you find particularly effective or

challenging?

Loved the no nonsense direct approachcommunication was fantastic.

Relatable.

Areas for improvement

How could the presenter improve in making the content more applicable to your professional

practice?

N/A

It was spot on thank you

Participant Testimonials

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This was probably the best training I’ve ever done on online events. Stefan was absolutely great

at presenting and explaining this method.. The demonstration was superb.