Deconstructing Couple Privilege
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Deconstructing Couple Privilege

By Poly Philia @polyphiliablog
Online event

Overview

Leanne @polyphiliablog + Marla @polyamarla share top tips on identifying, managing, and unpacking couple privilege in non-monogamy

What does it even mean to have couple privilege, and what do you do with it? How do you manage the very real logistical consequences of marriage, cohabitation, and childrearing in polyamory/non-monogamy, in an equitable way that considers the needs of everyone involved? What even is the difference between couple privilege and hierarchy - and how much do these definitions really matter? (Spoiler: they don't. Come and find out why.)

Leanne @polyphiliablog and therapist Marla @polyamarla will give practical advice, share personal stories, and bring all the nuance in this 2-hour workshop, which includes an audience Q&A. We will cover a wide range of topics, including:

  • the problems with hierarchy discourse in non-monogamous communities, and the many ways asking "is this hierarchy?" can actually be counterproductive and even harmful
  • how couple privilege affects all partners in polyamory, not just those outside of coupled pairs
  • how finances, disability, parenthood, and other factors intersect with - and complicate - the concept of 'couple privilege'
  • how to consider, mitigate, or (if desired!) dismantle the effects of couple privilege in a effective, empathetic, and communicative way

This is more than a webinar - it's also an opportunity to connect and share stories with like-minded people. We will share personal anecdotes, mistakes we've made, and hard-earned lessons from our own polyamorous journeys, and encourage you to share your own.

For those who have the capacity, please consider using the 'Pay It Forward' add-on option to cover concession tickets for low-income, queer, BIPOC, and other marginalised folks. If you are in need of a concession ticket, please contact either of us on Instagram to arrange this.

The workshop and Q&A will be recorded - all ticket holders will receive a copy of the recording.

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  • 2 hours
  • Online

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No refunds

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Agenda
19:00 - 19:30

What Is (And Isn't) Couple Privilege?

We will define couple privilege - it's not a bad thing! - and introduce our central thesis for this workshop around why hierarchy discourse is unhelpful in non-monogamous relationships. We will create new and more productive questions to ask partners in order to align on expectations and get needs met.

19:30 - 20:00

How Couple Privilege Affects EVERYONE

We will discuss the myriad ways couple privilege creates practical, logistical, social, and emotional challenges, especially when intersecting with marginalisations around income and disability. We will cover the effects of couple privilege not just on those outside the couple, but also those within the couple - and how everyone involved in a network of non-monogamous relationships can collaborate to account for these differences in power.

20:00 - 20:30

How To Unpack Couple Privilege

Not all couple privilege needs to be (or can be!) dismantled, because we live in a mononormative society where monogamy is presented as the "correct", "ethical", or expected way to participate in intimate partnership. However, that doesn't mean you can't acknowledge it, address it (where possible and if desired), and communicate it upfront with potential or existing partners. This section is about how to do exactly that in an empathetic and considered way, as well as how to identify when the issue is not couple privilege, but simply incompatibility between partners.

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Oct 19 · 11:00 AM PDT