Deconstruction is part of the human condition. We build things up, and then we become confined by them. It's only by consciously decontructing what we have built, that we can grow and develop.

But it's a painful process, or it can be. And it's usually only precipitated by some kind of crisis, something that stops us in our tracks, and makes us realise that somethings have to change, a bereavement, a relationship breakdown, a feeling of betrayal, all these are common causes.

The process of deconstruction gives rise to various conflicting feelings: guilt, liberation, fear, exhileration... Dealing with such mixed feelings is hard, and in order to get through them with a sense of healthy progress, it can really help to take time to take stock. This short retreat is designed to do just that.

Accomodation at the Hayes is comfortable. You will be in an individual en-suite room (unless you choose to complicate matters and need a double room). Food is decent and plentiful, and the grounds are really lovely. Also, given the kind of stuff we're talking and thinking about, and the potential for some late night conversations, it's probably useful to know that there is a fully licensed bar, and that the tea and coffee is half decent.

Read more about Simon, and the sort of thing he does, at his website.