Exploring consensual non-monogamy

Want to design a relationship that fits you and your partner, but unsure how to distinguish what you might want from broader cultural norms?

Join us to explore consensual non-monagamy and relationship design.

We know this isn't something familiar or comfortable to most of us; it wasn't to us. We'll meet you exactly where you are.

Together, we will:

• Explore what concepts like desire, love, security and authenticity mean to you in romantic relationships.
• Unpack topics like care, commitment, jealousy, self-worth, shame and communication in the context of consensually non-monogomous relationships.
• Reflect on what works and doesn't work for each of us.

Why join us?

• To learn about the many ways of building relationships within the umbrella of 'consensual non-monogamy'.
• To ask questions you might normally feel scared to ask and really get under the skin of uncomfortable topics like jealousy, setting boundaries and security.
• To connect with others who are thinking intentionally about relationships. To keep things intimate and allow us to really engage with what's on our minds, we plan to have no more than 10-15 people at each session.

Importantly, this is not a conversion to polyamory. We have no desire to convince anyone to change the relationship structures they willingly choose. If you're monogamous but want to simply understand how this all works or why someone might choose this, we'd love you to join us.

Similarly, there is no obligation to share beyond what feel comfortable with in the group. This is a judgement-free space to learn, reflect, and create intentions for what living and loving authentically means for you.

🥗The ticket cost is to cover healthy food and drinks for the evening.

Who we are and why we're doing this

We're a married couple who have been together for 7 years. Both raised in South Asian cultures by loving parents, our starting point for relationships was, like almost all of us, monogamy. We started exploring consenual non-monogamy 4 years ago, taking small steps at first and eventually growing into polyamory. This is our current structure but we humbly accept that relationship structures, for us, are fluid. Polyamory is defined as "the practice of, or desire for, intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the informed consent of all partners involved*". It was not something obvious or intuitive to us; rather, it's something we've learned about and practiced, together, slowly over time. We've hugely benefitted from friends, books and real-life experiences and want to do our part in contributing to the journey of others.

We hope to see you there,

Bikram and Ambica

*from "More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory" by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert. A hugely helpful read.