FAMILY CONSTELLATIONS - workshop
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'Clarity carries you across your life; not confidence,' Sadhguru. Without clarity, confidence can be stupid and naive, but clarity will give the confidence you need to change for the better.
The way you think is the way you feel therefore they way you tend to act. It's estimated that 70% of what happens to you were non-biographical?
Non-biographical means that your life is not being created by your own actions up to 70% of the time, but by an unconscious driving force that runs throughout your family with the intention to balance the system.
Nature organise itself in social groups or systems such as flock of bird, shoal of fish, humans and so on. From all human systems, such as countries, religions, clubs etc... the family is the most important one. In a family system, there are what is known as 'Orders of Love' which must be respected for life to flow.
Going against them, will create struggles, depression, lack of success and money, ill health and relationship problems in general.
A few of the symptons our lives are not being run by us, but by this tremendous unconscious force that runs throughout our family system , and passed on generation after generation to us by our parents are:
- We tend to repeat who we criticise. Our parents behaviour is the most common.
- Changing partners and ending up with a similar relationship and believing, 'We're so unlucky'.
- Despite all the effort, nothing seems to change or change little.
- Ill health; i.e. a cascade of diseases that seem to go from aches and pains to weight gain, losing mobility to losing will for life etc.
HOW DOES THIS HAPPEN?
Through unresolved traumas. When a trauma happens to someone in the family and is pushed away, not talked about or ignored, it will come back in the next generation to be solved. And you or someone close to you will behave and feel in such a way until someone gets clarity about it.
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CASE STUDY:
THE INTRUDER IN MY HEALTH
‘What issue would you like to solve if you could today?’ I asked.
‘My health. I’ve been having yearly endoscopies for a long time, and now they found a polyp on my left side. I’ll need surgery,’ said Alysia.
I got a few dolls out and asked her to pick some of them to help build an image of her unconscious mind in relation to her issue.
She chose one to represent her health and placed it facing her own doll. The health was looking down at someone who died. So I placed a small doll beside it.
My client lost a baby boy, who died ten minutes after being born, because of medical negligence. Alysia’s husband and her mother decided she’d not see her son and she never did.
‘What’s his name?’
‘He was going to be called Antonio. But it never happened.’
‘You can give him his name now,’ I told her. And she did.
I asked Alysia to place her husband and her mother in relation to her. To my surprise, she placed him looking at her in between the health and herself. Her mother was put on her left side looking down.
‘Has your mother lost a child too?’
‘Yes, but she never liked to talk about it.’
The image was really clear. This baby son’s death was the major source of her deepest pain and depression. Alysia had been carrying this burden, at the cost of her physical and mental health, all these years on her own.
CONCLUSION:
By placing her husband between herself and her health was the same as saying to him, ‘When you decided not to allow me to see our dead baby, I couldn’t mourn his death and I became ill.’
In a couple’s relationship, husband and wife are equals. His sole decision created a serious unbalance in their marriage. They stayed together, but the loving relationship did not survive this trauma. Alysia always resented him and always made it clear to the rest of the family.
Why didn’t she blame her mother in the same way?
In fact, Alysia created an unconscious bond through pain with her mother called ‘blind love’. They both lost babies. Her mother’s decision of not allowing Alysia to see her own baby was an unconscious attempt to avoid her daughter seeing what she saw. At the time, she was only 18 years old. That bond doesn’t mean their relationship was a good one; much to the contrary.
Giving the baby a name also gave him a place in the family and in Alysia’s heart. ‘Telling’ her husband they are both responsible for carrying the burden of a lost child was of great relief for someone who was doing it by herself.
And accepting the mother’s decision as the best she could have had at the time was final for achieving inner peace.
