Getting over people pleasing: the need to fit in and not stand out

Whether it’s saying yes when we really mean no, hiding parts of ourselves to keep the peace, or constantly seeking approval — people-pleasing can leave us feeling drained, unseen, and disconnected from who we really are.

Join us for a reflective and empowering session where we’ll explore why so many of us feel the need to fit in, how these patterns show up in our relationships, work, and daily lives, and what it takes to start standing in our authentic truth.

Guided by Ashanty Alves, Psychotherapist & Founder of Warrior Reminder, this session offers space to talk, learn, and practice tools that help us set boundaries, build confidence, and release the pressure to please.

Bring a friend, colleague, or come solo — all are welcome as we create a supportive space for growth, self-awareness, and connection.

VENUE - to be confirmed through email. Located in Birmingham, UK.

This event will allow you to:

• Find belonging, community as well as learn, explore and connect on experiences
• Reflect on behaviour, actions and be educated on ways to overcome people pleasing
• Have access to a Psychotherapist, paid by IN.Society- so please do make use of the time during the event!
• Unapologetically focus on you, what you want out of life and ability to share in a non judgemental environment

WHAT TO EXPECT

• A supportive, culturally competent space to explore your own personal challenges
• A chance to ask questions and connect with other locals over experiences in an unfiltered, safe space
• Engage, explore and gain access to culturally competent mental health service providers

Water and light refreshments will be provided.

WHY IS THIS EVENT FREE?

IN.Society is delighted to have the Racial Identity & Wellbeing Hub Project funded by the Commuity Lottery Fund. This event is one of many to be delivered throughout the year, focussed on supporting Black & Asian ethnic people in Birmingham/surrounding areas with experiences of racism through events, knowledge, togetherness, awareness and resources.

WHO'S THIS EVENT FOR?

This event is set up for Black and Asian ethnic communities to have an unfiltered, safe space to connect in a group setting, being particularly useful to:

• Anyone wanting to learn more and connect with others on this specific topic/practice
• Anyone who experienced racism and want help to overcoming it
• Anyone looking to connect with culturally-competent service providers

FACILITATED BY

Daneille Guthrie | Founder of IN.Society, a racial equality & cultural education organisation based in West Midlands

Ashanty Alves | Psychotherapist, Author, Spiritual Life Coach & Founders of Warrior Reminder

SUPPORTED BY

Birmingham Mind | Uroy Kelly & Zahida Khan, Community Workers

BAATN

MORE INFO

IN.Society - www.in-society.org - West Midlands based Racial Equality & Cultural Education organisation, which aims to support people and organisations working towards an inclusive future through education, support and advocacy. Become a member to join our mission, access future events and be apart of the change!

Warrior Reminder - https://ashalves.com/aboutwarriorreminder - Warrior Reminder is a therapeutic community dedicated to helping you cultivate a harmonious and fulfilling relationship with yourself and others. Through our therapeutic tools and methods, we guide you in reconnecting with your authentic self and embarking on a journey towards wholeness.

Birmingham Mind - https://birminghammind.org/ - Since 1962 Birmingham Mind has been working hard with individuals with mental health needs assisting them to build upon their own strengths so that they are in control of their own lives.

BAATN - https://www.baatn.org.uk/ - Home of the largest community of Counsellors and Psychotherapists of Black, African, Asian and Caribbean Heritage in the UK

Any Questions? Get in touch via:

Socials | @insociety_uk

Email: info@in-society.org