‘It is not the event that causes Trauma, it is the inability to process the emotions and feelings of the trauma, the most difficult being shame.’ Sun Tui
Many people seem to live ‘successful’ lives, at least that’s how it may look to others, but identity distortion such as low self-esteem, shame, and chronic self-judgment leave them unable to truly enjoy their achievements or to value themselves as worthwhile individuals.
An endless number of emotional and physical wellbeing problems are caused by ‘relational’ trauma experiences in child hood. Incidents such childhood surgery, complications at birth, a parent that was emotionally unavailable because of illness or stress, bullying, bereavement, loneliness – whatever the reason, if we do not feel welcomed in the world when we are young, we find it difficult to develop a healthy sense of ourselves as someone who has the right to exist feeling that we are ‘OK’ or ‘good enough’ as a person.
Because the brain uses the past to predict the future, survival patterns created at the time of difficulty, usually in our childhood, remain fixed in our nervous system and create maladaptive or a false identity. It is these survival styles appropriate only to the past, that distorts aspects of later life and hinders us from living our fullest potential relationship and life goals.
‘No matter how withdrawn and isolating we have become, or how serious the trauma we have experienced, on the deepest level, just as a plant spontaneously moves towards the sun, there is in each of us an impulse, that seeks connection and healing.’ Laurence Heller
By attending the Understanding Conflict workshop you will receive
Psychological understanding about how the brain and nervous system work
A process to understand how adapted survival skills can be dysfunctional
Specific skills to develop a sense of safety and self confidence
Opportunities to practice new more functional behaviours with the Horses
(when we have low self esteem and shame, working with horses feels safer than humans. Once confident with the horses, it is easier to cope with human relationships).
A more developed sense of your authentic real self-identity and belonging