Lori Shook's Coach Top-up: Cleaning Closets; Releasing Skeletons
Cleaning Closets; Releasing Skeletons
The Power of Acceptance and Forgiveness
As coaches, we need to spend time and energy investing in ourselves and our own growth – especially if we expect our clients to do that too.
Through Coach Top-ups, Lori Shook offers short personal development programmes as a gift to the coaching community. Lori aims to introduce a variety of ways to approach personal development and to bring fresh ideas to each topup. So prepare yourself for another great personal journey with Lori
From Lori: I chose the topic this time because of another skeleton in the form of a family secret that showed up in my life this summer. I notice the huge range of feelings and emotions I go through in coming to grips with this age-old secret that almost died completely with my mother last year. I also notice how tempting it is to be dramatic about it and to blame or criticise various people and institutions that came together to skeletonise this event (which I’ll tell you all about on the day). But the drama and blame weren’t so helpful, although might just be part of the process. I’m finding that a more helpful stage is acceptance – and I’m working on it. I thought others of you might be working on your own versions of dealing with skeletons – whether big family secrets or small things you just avoid - and you might be fighting your own battles of acceptance and forgiveness. So, why not, let’s just go for it together!
In the past I’ve seen how releasing secrets can free people and how holding them takes energy and can even shapes one’s personality.
It’s easy to hold a grudge and resentment. It’s more difficult to forgive or accept. Yet it is forgiveness and acceptance that frees us and allows us to integrate various facts/events and move on.
Our work together in these three hours will be based on psychology and neuroscience research around forgiveness and acceptance and the classic Kubler-Ross change curve. We will also incorporate some of Kristen Neff’s self-compassion work and you likely notice some hints of Brene Brown’s vulnerability work.
I look forward to another 3 hour journey with you into the wild and whacky world of our emotions, our social brain, and our wonderful closets that hold so many, uhm, treasures.
This will take place on Friday, October 7th from 10am to 1pm at Heythrop College, 23 Kensington Square, London W8 5HN.
The cost is £25 per head, to pay for the space.
Resource Development Certificates:
Certificates for three hours of Resource Development CCE (Continuing Coach Education) will be available for coaches who attend the workshop. Resource Development CCEs are not the same as the ICF core competency CCEUs but they still count towards ICF accreditation (up to a limited number of hours).
Lori Shook, MCC has been coaching for 20 years and training coaches in a variety of settings for 18 years. She’s been delving into her own personal develoment for most of her life (for good reason given all these family skeletons that keep showing up!) and wishes personal development itself to get out of the closet and become a normal thing that we do regularly. We need emotional fitness at least as much as we need physical fitness!