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Loving Relationships - How to Nurture, Navigate and Nourish When One of You...

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Relationships are hard at the best of times. Even when we love someone with all of our hearts and souls, maintaining a relationship takes care, compromise and compassion to keep it working in a way that is healthy and considerate for both people concerned. This, of course, extends not just to our partners, but to our relationships with our family members, friends and colleagues too.

How then can we nurture, nourish and navigate a relationship once one of the people involved has a cancer diagnosis? What is it ‘ok’ to talk about? What is it not ‘ok’ to talk about? How can we ensure that both parties are truely heard and that emotions are supported? How can we maintain what we once had? How do we welcome this new addition into our partnership with an open heart and mind?

In this workshop, for the first time ever, Fi Munro (PhD)* will be joined by her (ever patient and loving) husband and best friend, Ewan Munro. Together, and with the help and support of Maggie’s staff, they will lead a workshop discussion about how to make a relationship work following a cancer diagnosis; from treatment, to life after cancer and if/when cancer returns.

They are, by no means suggesting they are the ‘perfect couple’ or indeed that they have all the answers. Instead, they are hoping to open the space to help other people navigate their relationships so that cancer can help their love to grow stronger through open channels of love and communication.

Please bring your partner, friend or family member with you for an evening filled with love and support, during which you will be able to join in discussion (or sit and observe) in a safe and supportive space free from judgement.

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*Fi Munro (PhD) is a multi award winning researcher, author, blogger, fundraiser and public speaker recognised internationally for her presentations and articles on her journey and holistic health. She has been featured in two BBC documentaries, in TV and radio shows, and in newspaper and magazine articles across the globe. She is fuelled by positivity, valuing time in nature, yoga and eating the right food as three of the most important parts of any holistic treatment plan.

In January 2016, at the age of 30, Fi Munro was diagnosed with non-genetic stage four ovarian cancer. In that moment, after months of pain, tests and assurances that it was ‘nothing to worry about’, her instincts were proved right and her worst fears were realised.In the months that followed, understanding her diagnosis, recovery and health became her full time job. Using her expertise as a researcher she dedicated her time to understanding everything she could about her diagnosis and subsequent prognosis.In 2017 she published her first book 'Love, Light and Mermaid Tails: One Woman's Healing Journey Back to Wholeness Through Stage Four Cancer', following which she was awarded 'Health Blogger of the Year 2017'. In this honest, open and often tear-jerking account of her journey back to wholeness, Fi openly shares her story from diagnosis with stage four ‘terminal’ cancer to living an incredible, healthy life full of joy and laughter.
She is currently working on her second book whilst running a series of workshops to help people live their lives as their most authentic and best versions of themselves. She also runs yoga, meditation and healing retreats, as well as weekly yoga classes for children and adults.

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Extract:

“I'd like you to take a moment to think over an important question.

How much value do you place on your life? Or, let me ask you another way, what payment would you make to live? What would you consider the appropriate cost of your survival?

I'm not talking about monetary value. Death doesn't work in currency. I'm talking about something much more precious that that.

Would you pay with your dignity? Your looks perhaps? How about your strength? Would you use your career as payment? What about your hobbies? Would you offer up your sense of self or your body image? What about parts of your body? Would you offer up some of your organs or your limbs?

At what point would the payment get too much? At what point would you choose to not pay the fee and to finally offer up your life instead?

It's a question we don't ever expect to have to answer, however, it’s a question most cancer warriors face at some point in their journey. Every choice about survival comes at a price, an adjustment, a sacrifice, a new way of living.

In this exchange between life and death we discover who we are. We discover what truly matters to us and, above all, we discover that the most valuable thing we possess is not our looks, our career, our house or our possessions. It is being alive. It is life itself.

You see, in reality, nothing else matters. The purpose of life is to live with joy and kindness and love in our hearts in all that we do. This knowledge is what cancer gave me in return for the payments I made. Today, I am living the best and most fulfilling days of my life not in spite of cancer, but because of it!

My payments started small. I gave my hair, my strength, and my sense of wellbeing. I exchanged my hobbies, my career and even some friendships. The payment demands constantly grew. Before long I was exchanging organs for my life. These payments came with hidden charges and I continued to pay with my pain, fatigue and weakness. Were the payments worth it?

Sometimes I thought they weren’t. Sometimes I thought I couldn’t take it any more. I wanted out. I wanted to stop these payments, these exchanges. At these moments I was gifted love and kindness and hope from those around me. This made the payments easier and, in the end, the people I love made the payments worth it.

The resulting gift of my own life, the gift of waking up each morning and welcoming a new day, of knowing what the true meaning of life is, of knowing what matters most to me in the whole world is worth every single second of pain; every moment of fear; every breath of despair. This is what life is and it’s up to us to live it.”

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