Non-residential Experiential Training
Friday 4th Nov 19:00 - 21:30
Sat 5th Nov 09:00 - 21:30
Sun 6th Nov 09:30 - 18:00
Mindful Grief Tending looks at our relationship to grief and grieving: What beliefs do I have about expressing emotions?, How do I treat myself when in grief?, How do I feel about other people’s grief?, Do I keep grief in my body?, How can I tend grief with mindful compassion?
The definition of ‘tending’ is – to care for or look after; give one’s attention to something. In Mindful Grief Tending training we make time to be with our experience just as it is, reversing cultural norms to suppress grief and grieving.
The intention of Mindful Grief Tending is not to ‘get rid’ of grief but to move from a place of feeling threatened, avoidant or aversive when grieving to being able to cultivate compassion for self and other (our affiliative/soothing system) when in grief and grieving; to be able to tend our difficult emotions.
Using practices of mindfulness, mindful movement and compassion, we directly experience body sensations, thoughts and emotions. During the course we create the conditions of permission and safety, for ourselves and each other, to engage in a secular grief tending ritual. Ritual in this setting meaning a space where, for a set amount of time, we agree to be with grief, to welcome grief. The ritual provides a neutral focus to allow grief to be expressed (loudly, quietly, sadly, angrily) as appropriate to you. The design of the ritual space means we do not ‘take on’ the suffering of others or put our suffering ‘on show’ but we have the opportunity to be supported to directly experience what we are carrying.
Making time to process the pain of loss is a healthy part of grieving. It is hard to make sense of life after a loss or adapt to a loss or trauma without processing emotional pain. Avoiding the experience of pain or not having the necessary social support to process pain can lead to protracted suffering.
Mindful Grief Tending is training in tools and practices that help with processing the pain of loss and is suitable for adults at any life stage. As an advanced emotional resilience training MGT is beneficial to practice before times of intense grief; to process and integrate past grief; or to gain the skills to support others in their griefjourney. Here, ‘grief’ includes grief from any loss or trauma as well as the specific grief ofbereavement. Mindful Grief Tending is a secular training, suitable for beginners as well as experienced meditators and does not require adherence to any belief system.
The mediation practices are adapted from the Mindfulness Association UK’s Mindfulness Based Living Course. Where possible grief tending is supported with nature connection practices based on the teaching of Jon Young and the 8 Shields Institute. The design of the ritual space is a secular adaptation of the teachings of Sobonfu Some a traditional lineage holder from the Dagara tribe of West Africa.
Mindful Grief Tending is an experiential education course and not an alternative to therapeutic intervention. Advice and consultation is available to help you decide if the course is suitable for you at thistime. If you have recently received or are currently receiving treatment from a psychiatrist, psychotherapist or counsellor for an ongoing mental health problem, please obtain support from your mental health professional before attending this course. If you are currently taking medication for a mental health problem, we strongly recommend that you do not change your medication on the basis of attending this course.
If you have recently or are currently going through a traumatic life event such as separation from a long term partner, the death of a close family member or friend or domentic/sexual violence please assess if it is the right time for you to ‘be with’ the emotions of this experience. What do you need at this time? This very much depends on your current psychological health and the support networks that you have around you, such as friends, family and mental health professionals. If you have any concerns about booking please contact Ruth Bradley to explore if the Mindful Grief Tending training is right for you at this time.
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Ruth Bradley has been a practicing Buddhist though the lineage of Kagyu Samye Ling since 2001 and is completing an MSc in Mindfulness with the University of Aberdeen, specialising in Emotional Resilience Training. Ruth has many years’ experience in mental health support, has worked in a residential challenging behavior unit and is a mental health first aider. Ruth has six years’ experience participating and assisting in community grief tending rituals based on the Dagara tradition of West Africa. Together with other experienced practitioners, Ruth has adapted the traditional grief tending ritual to a secular context and combined it with the support of mindfulness and self-compassion training to make the experiential traning Mindful Grief Tending. Ruth has spent the last two years facilitating MGT and conducting academic research into the efficacy of the Mindful Grief Tending approach and potential application contexts of the training.