Pace, Power & Pleasure

Stop overriding yourself in intimacy and start building the deep self-trust that makes connection safe, grounded and deeply nourishing.

Even if you’ve read the books, done the therapy, and still find yourself spiralling, saying yes too quickly or overthinking every interaction.

✨ In this interactive workshop, you’ll use my Pace, Power & Pleasure framework to map your inner patterns and create your own guide to safe, embodied connection. Think of it as your blueprint for moving from emotional overwhelm to secure, self-led intimacy.

This is for you if…

• You go along at their pace, even when your body says “slow down.”
• You want to open or explore, but end up spiralling into overthinking or emotional burnout.
• You’ve done the self-development work, but still freeze, fawn or doubt yourself in charged moments.
• You long to feel safe softening into intimacy without abandoning yourself.

What you’ll walk away with

• Your personalised Pace, Power & Pleasure Map - clarity on your rhythm, boundaries and desires.
• Somatic tools to regulate your body when things feel too fast, too much or too uncertain.
• Simple language scripts to express your limits without guilt or over-explaining.
• A sense of self-trust you can return to in dating, ENM, kink or long-term love.

"Nyla’s sessions feel grounded and safe. The intimacy map framework helped me hone into my own preferences, needs and wants, a tool I’ll keep using." – Clare

What to expect

• Guided visualisation to meet your “Pace Keeper” part, the inner compass for safety.
• Practical mapping exercise using the PPP canvas.
• Relatable real-life scenarios: mismatched pacing, boundary wobbles, emotional flooding.
• Body-based boundary practices to help you hold your ground without shutdown.
• A small group setting to keep things interactive, experiential, and practical, not just theory.

💛 This workshop has been described as “game-changing” and is back by popular demand.

Hosted by Nyla @UnboundRelating

Nyla Khan (@Unbound Relating) is a Certified Psychosynthesis Coach who helps women stop people-pleasing, build self-trust, and create emotionally nourishing relationships. She’s walked this path herself, from overriding her needs in ENM and lifestyle spaces to building boundaries rooted in clarity, care and self-trust.

Her workshops are interactive and practical (not just theory), with small group sizes so you get real takeaways you can use immediately.