Will I be alone forever?
Is there anyone out there for me?
How can I meet people who are interested in a poly person?
These are questions I very often hear polyamorous people say. Finding people to date can be difficult. Often you may go to meetups, which are great, but people may not be looking. Speed dating events are fun, but they can feel quite pressured. So I decided to create something intermediate between the two.
Welcome to the second of our Activity-Based Dating events. These are smaller than speed dating events and rather than focusing on chatting to each other, you will be focused on an activity. We will manage the dynamics so that you can speak to a number of people (if not all!) and get to know each other.
In this specific event we will be playing board games at a board game café. You will play different games for about 2 hours with some time for free-form socialising (or playing games) at the end. During the structured part of the event we will rotate you so you get to play with a range of different people (and different games).
You will get a dating card, where you can express your interest. At the end we'll ask you to fill it out and select whether you want to be matched with each person in the event as a friend, a date or nothing at all. If both of you match as friends or dates, you will get each other's emails together with the type of match it is. If one of you says date and the other friend, you will get an email with each other's details and saying it's a friendship match. And if one wants to match and the other doesn't your information will stay private.
One drink is included with your ticket.
Where are we meeting?
We will disclose the location to people with tickets a few days before the event. The location is in zone 2 and easily accessible on public transport.
Is it accessible?
Unfortunately, it won't be accessible for wheelchair users, as this event takes place in the downstairs of a bar. It's an environment that will have moderate to high levels of noise and lots of stimulation. If you have any specific accessibility questions or requirements, please contact firstname.lastname@example.org and we will do our best to accommodate you.
Can I bring a partner?
Absolutely! They will need to buy their own ticket. Our policy for this event is that partners date individually. If you want to date as a couple, you can do that outside the event, but make sure you let the people you are talking with know!
Are there friendship dates?
Like in Poly Speed Dating, we will be matching people for friendship as well as dating. When the time comes to select people, you will be able to decide whether you want to stay in touch as a friend or a date. If one of you says date and the other says friend, you will be introduced as friends.
Is there an age limit to enter the event?
You must be over 18. We will have people of all ages. If you have specific requirements or are worried about finding others who are your age, contact the organiser (email@example.com).
What's with the gender on the tickets?
We do not ask for your gender, but we do ask for your preference (or lack thereof!) in terms of what genders to date. This helps us keep things balanced, without asking people to self-disclose. In the event you will be meeting people of all genders and will be able to be matched with all of them. If you don't like a specific gender, we will asume that you might still want to be their friend. On the dating card, you will be able to select whether you want to be matched as a friend, a date or not at all. We include the date option to keep things easy from an admin point of view.
A note on trans*: We consider people as the gender they identify with and absolutely welcome trans people. If you are not comfortable interacting with trans people (or willing to challenge your assumptions) this may not be the place for you.
Non-binary: This means people who don't identify as man or woman. Therefore, we have added them to all the categories. We also love non-binary people.
If how we've classified gender doesn't agree with your ideas - don't worry! The spirit of these events are that you get to talk to everyone and then decide if you want to be a person's friend, date them or nothing at all. So if someone doesn't rock your boat, at worst you've made an acquaintance.
Gender is complicated - and so is organising. We welcome feedback and ask that it be gentle.
What information will you be sharing with matches?
We will provide them with the email and first name you used when registering for this event, unless you tell us otherwise. If you are buying tickets for other people (buying 2 or more), please write to Victoria with the people's names and email addresses. If we don't have this we won't be able to match them and they, their matches and us will be very sad.
What's your refund policy?
If you can't make it and know at least 24 hours before the event, or before the ticket sales close we will refund you. Just write to the organiser.
Where can I contact the organiser with any questions?
Just email Victoria at firstname.lastname@example.org