Please note this is NOT a ZOOM Lecture but an in person lecture. Tickets include a complimentary glass of Devil's Botany Absinthe.
Doors open at 6:30pm and talk starts at 7pm
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Songs of Shadows and Ecstasy: Introduction to BDSM & Kink for modern relationships
BDSM and Kink: Differences, Overlaps, and the Language of Expansive Desire"Though often used interchangeably, BDSM and kink are distinct yet deeply intertwined terms that describe different dimensions of erotic exploration.An engaging, inclusive, and non-judgmental talk mixing history, theory, and lived experience — accessible to all, whether you're kink and/or BDSM-curious or simply looking to expand your understanding of human sexuality and Eroticism.What Is Kink?What Is BDSM?So What’s the Difference?And Where Do They Overlap?Why Does This Matter?Understanding the distinction and the nuance helps us:Name our desires more clearlyCommunicate boundaries and needs more effectivelyAvoid assumptions about others’ practices or identitiesReduce stigma, both internal and societalCreate safer, more fulfilling, and more connected relationships, hotter, creative, expansive, ecstatic sexuality. It is Erotic!Both kink and BDSM are languages of erotic creativity. They are tools for play, expression, healing, ecstasy, rebellion, transgression, and transformation. They challenge shame. They centre consent. And they return us, over and over, to the body, to presence, to power, and to pleasure."
Nuit d’Or
At 65, Nuit d’Or is a rare and respected voice in the fields of conscious kink, BDSM, and erotic education. A certified Transformational Coach, mentor, and inclusive sex educator, she supports individuals, couples, and collectives in reclaiming their erotic intelligence and creating conscious, life-affirming relationships.
With a professional background in ballet, contemporary dance and the visual arts, Nuit d’Or brings a unique blend of creative discipline, somatic intelligence, and psychological insight to her work. Since 2009, she has led professional and lifestyle BDSM sessions following an immersive apprenticeship with Mistress Fiore, refining an approach that is trauma-informed, soulful, and erotically attuned.
Her coaching draws on shadow work, mental fitness, archetypal astrology, and Jungian principles to help clients reclaim inner authority, explore desire without shame, and build intimacy rooted in trust and agency. She also mentors Dominants, submissives, and couples looking to deepen their dynamics with clarity and integrity.
Brought up in Switzerland to French and Spanish parents, and based in East London, Nuit d’Or works internationally through her private practice, workshops, and her podcast In Praise of Shadows. Her work champions modern relationships that are self-aware, consensual, and radically alive.
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Devil's Botany is the UK's first absinthe distillery, founded by Directors of The Last Tuesday Society's Absinthe Parlour & Cocktail Bar. Celebrating spirit's connection to art, literature & mixology, Devil's Botany is unleashing the future of absinthe with bold expressions for the adventurous drinkers of today.
We are unable to give refunds for in person events with less than 7 days notice in any circumstances.
