San Francisco, California
London, United Kingdom
Join Martin in his unique and uplifting talk when he shares, in a fun and warm way, new refreshing insights which turned his life around and has helped many others like you, find greater happiness, peace of mind, as well as deeper love & trust.
You will be inspired and take away with you fresh ideas so you can immediately begin to feel lighter as you let go of worries and understand why love, your relationships and your life are so hard work?
Using the analogy of the Rucksack, Martin shows how you carry an unnecessary burden, which started from birth, when you were discovering your world and how you related to it. ‘What and Who am I? Who are they? Can I trust them? Is it safe for me?’
You modelled your parent’s ideals and learnt to be obedient, unselfish, to put others before yourself, work hard, be patient, considerate and responsible etc. These became your rules & standards that shaped your characteristics and behaviours; they became the ‘conditions ’ which you believed would bring you love, happiness & acceptance.
But as you have discovered, through much pain and worry, life isn’t black and white? It doesn’t follow rules and conditions. For example, despite you trying to be the perfect child, if you learnt you were ‘stupid’ or ‘ugly’ when young, through life, you try to avoid feeling that way and proving to yourself and others that you were not a fool or looked unappealing.
You might have realised that despite putting everything into your relationship, doing and saying the ‘right’ things, hoping things will turn out just as you expected, you were faced with the truth that your partner cheated on you or doesn’t think your special the way they promised; now you feel heartbroken, angry, bitter, let down, wondering how could this happen? Why did I let them do this to me? I did the right things, so why didn’t they? What’s wrong with me? Why should I be the one that’s hurting?
Perhaps you learnt that you had to put up with things, it was your choice, your destiny and you couldn’t or mustn’t change things. What would people think of you if you did? What if you’re wrong about making a decision and worry you can’t go back in time? But you’re the one who is in discomfort, confused, struggling to make the right choice, trying to keep everyone happy.
This is why you doubt yourself and need certainty and stability. This is why you struggle because you’re trying to keep things together and make your world fit your values, conditions and expectations. Over and over, you keep doing the same thing, hoping things turn out as you predict or think they should, or that one day they do just suddenly change for the better and your nightmare dissolves away by itself.
So what happened to Martin? Like you, he wanted answers: Why was his life in such a mess? What had he done wrong? Why him? What could he do to turn things around? He had worked at things so hard and gave it his all. Things looked so bleak!
After much deliberation and having explored so many roads that led to dead ends, he concluded there was only one place to look for inspiration, and that was to take a close and honest look into his heart. What he discovered wasn’t anything like what he had feared; he wasn’t a failure, inadequate, selfish and unlovable, like he believed, he was the very opposite!
He realised he had been sleepwalking, with a distorted view of himself and others, which were based on illusions and misunderstandings he learned from people he loved, trusted and those who he thought were better than him. He was at the root of his own struggles and disappointments. He had put false and needless expectations on himself and others.
His fears and emotional turmoil were the result of fruitless attempts to take ‘control’ over his life, when really, it was out of his hands. Looking inwards, he discovered a long lost friend. As he says, ‘getting myself out of the way’, opened the door to greater inner peace, more health of body and mind, a sense of belonging and deeper self-understanding.
For the first time, Martin was able to see himself as he truly was, which helped him live more consciously and where love; trust and hope were restored. ‘It was like a heavy weight being lifted off my mind – I can breathe freely again and have a reason to live.’
As well as Martin's talk we will be running a regular BOOK EXCHANGE so bring along any books that you feel have inspired you or pick a book from the selection and just bring it back once you've read it (no money is exchanged just trust).
We like to keep a record of who donates and borrows books so we can keep a check on where each book is.
Entry fee is £5 on the door which includes free tea/coffee/cake!
Doors open from 7pm with the talk commencing at 7.30pm prompt.
Venue: The Horse & Jockey, Wood Green Road, Wednesbury, WS10 9AX.
For more information about Soul Cafe visit http://mindbodyspiritshows.com/soul-cafe/
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Welcome to Soul Cafe, our aim is to introduce something completely new and and unique to the Black Country. Our talks are designed to inspire, inform and share knowledge, for people come together to explore spiritual topics and concerns in an open and supportive atmosphere, with an emphasis on sharing, learning, and the emergence of wisdom.
At each meeting there will be a talk from an inspirational speaker who will share their knowledge and philosophy, during the evening there will be an opportunity to talk about spirituality, new age matters, health and healing etc in a safe, non-dogmatic environment. Our intention is to provide a forum for people to share their views in a spirit of mutual respect and understanding and contribute to the strengthening of community spirit.
We are a friendly, fun and supportive group. If you feel you are always on the outside looking in where your spiritual life is concerned - welcome to our world.
Some of the speakers may have books they wish to promote and there may be an opportunity for you to purchase if you wish, however, there will be no hard sell!
We do hope you will join us.
Soul Cafe Meetup is a not-for-profit event.
Soul Cafe is run by mother and daughter Jean and Karen Foster.