Workshop: Pace, Power & Pleasure

Build your own grounded intimacy map for more clarity, embodied boundaries and self-trust.

Whether you're dating, exploring or reconnecting to your desires, it’s easy to lose yourself in someone else’s pace. You want to stay open but not get swept up. You want to soften but without spiralling. You want to explore without abandoning yourself.

This workshop helps you map the emotional arc of your lifestyle journey, so you can move with more intentionality, safety and self-trust.

You’ll explore what emotional clarity looks like for you, how your nervous system responds to different dynamics and where your inner people-pleaser or overfunctioner might be steering the show. You’ll leave with your own Emotional Roadmap Canvas - a visual guide to your needs, limits and desires, plus the option to go deeper with a 1:1 Navigation Session.

Who this is for:

• You say yes in the moment, then second-guess or spiral afterwards
• You feel pressure to match other people’s pace, but struggle to tune into your own
• You want to explore connection, kink or dating without slipping into emotional flooding, over-explaining or anxiety
• You’ve done the therapy, read the books and now you want something practical and grounding
• You’re longing to soften again, but only in ways that honour your growth and your rhythm

What you’ll walk away with:

• Your personalised Emotional Roadmap to support clarity, pacing and self-trust
• Tools to regulate your nervous system when things feel fast, new or intense
• Scripts to express needs, limits and desires without over-explaining or freezing
• A clearer sense of what you want this chapter to feel like, and how to create that
• Option to upgrade to a 1:1 Navigation Session for more personalised support

What to expect:

• Guided visualisation to meet your “Pace Keeper” - the part of you that senses when it’s too much, too fast
• Emotional mapping exercise using the canvas
• Space to explore real scenarios like pacing mismatches, boundary wobbles or vibe crashes
• Body-based boundary practice to help you say “not yet” with clarity and calm

❣ Meet Your Facilitator, Nyla @Unbound Relating

Nyla is a Certified Psychosynthesis Coach and member of the WAX community who’s walked this path herself. She’s explored sex-positive spaces, open relationships and the emotional depth that comes with them. She became a coach after 20 years in business, leading start-ups, teams and leadership programmes - a path that continues to shape her grounded, systems-based approach.

She helps people explore sex-positive spaces and alternative relationships by building the emotional toolkit they never got taught: self-trust, emotional regulation and deep inner clarity.

✨As someone who's familiar with the lifestyle and the challenges it brings, she guides the inner work, so you can date and relate with confidence, courage and emotional integrity. You can find out more at www.unboundrelating.com

Safety Information

✨This is a supportive, welcoming space. Please arrive on time and bring your full presence.

• All lived experiences are respected - no discrimination, shaming or judgment.
• Sharing is always optional. I design different ways to interact so you can choose what feels right for you. That said, I really encourage active engagement, it’s what makes the space richer, braver and more valuable for everyone.
• A replay will be available for a limited time (no participant video or audio is ever shared).
• By booking, you agree to receive follow-up emails with integration resources and reflections after the session.