It's NOT about their behaviour

I see you.

Every week at drop off.

I hear you.

'Have fun!'

It falls on deaf ears.

You watch from the door as they run in, eager to tell their friends all their news from the past week.

I look up and smile at you.

I see the tension through your smile.

'I hope they behave.'

At the end of the session, I see you.

The tension of expectation, 'Will Louise ask to speak to me?'

The relief when I don’t.

You carry this with you every day.

School
Home
Work
Shopping
Everywhere

Waiting…

For behaviour.

Waiting increases the tension in you.

'If they’d just behave, I could relax.'

I see you.
I hear you.

In my years in education, I've felt the same way.

I've spent years learning strategies, reading books, studying course after course on behaviour.

Then I discovered

It’s not about their behaviour.