ONLINE SEMINAR - Accepting your Parents

Ineta Mas (Psychotherapy / Coaching)

When we don’t allow ourselves to accept our parents, we feel a huge emptiness inside.

L1 8JQ

At some point in life, many people have said to themselves: “I will never be like my mother…” “I will never be like my father…” But somehow, life ends up leading them down the same path, and they create a life that looks very similar—or even exactly the same. Why does that happen? • • • • • Parents are the people who give us life. We get a lot from them. Our looks, character traits, talents... but it doesn’t stop there. We are a part of our family system. And we also inherit the entire generation’s thought patterns, behaviour patterns, beliefs, fears, and traumas. Most of us feel a lot of hurt toward our parents. Some of us are aware of this and feel anger toward them, while others justify them, trying to avoid the unpleasant feelings they don’t want to face. The hurt we feel comes from our unfulfilled emotional needs, injustice, betrayal and many other reasons. And because of all of those reasons we end up wanting to push our parents away. We fill ourselves with resentment and anger, shame and regret, which doesn’t allow us to accept them those two people as they are. Then, we avoid them, blame them, or we’re doing everything we can to change them. The truth is, it is impossible for a child to not love his parents. And when we don’t allow ourselves to accept them, our inner child is not able to feel whole. • • • • • What happens when we don’t allow ourselves to love our parents? First of all, we feel that something is missing. We feel some sort of emptiness inside. And we begin to look for ways to fill that inner void with something, but no matter how hard we try, we always return to the same feelings of sadness and emptiness. How does this show up in our lives? We try to prove our worth through other people's validation. When in reality, all we want is to be valued by our parents. We keep creating relationships that hurt us because subconsciously we are seeking the same emotions we felt as children because that’s the only kind of “love” we were taught. We keep forcing ourselves to achieve more and more, never allowing ourselves to enjoy what we’ve created, as it never feels good enough. Because subconsciously, we want to feel “good enough” in our parents’ eyes. When we’re angry at our parents, when we hate them or blame them – we’re desperately trying to be different from them. That’s where people say, "I won’t be like my mother”. “I won’t be like my father." But the more we run away from them, the more we become just like them. Because the more we run from them, the more our inner child wants to reclaim his right to love his parents and be close to them. And the only way to be closer to them is to become just like them. We inherit their fate. And we can’t create our own life. Some people call it karma, but what it really is – it’s our inner child wanting to be closer to his parents and to be able to love them. • • • • • If we feel emptiness inside that we try to fill with other people, achievements, careers, and diplomas, but even after achieving what we wanted, we still can’t feel joy – it means we’re missing our mother. She is the one who forms our inner peace, our sense of fulfilment, and our ability to just be in the moment. If we don’t know what we want to do in life, if we lack self-confidence, struggle to set boundaries with others, and defend ourselves – it means we’re missing our father. He is the one who forms our self-confidence, our ability to allow ourselves to make mistakes and learn from them, to fall down and then stand up on our own feet once again. Healing our deepest wounds and feeling peace within ourselves begins with creating harmony in our relationship with our parents. Only by allowing our parents to stand in their rightful place can we release the anger, blame, and hurt that we’ve been carrying for years. By accepting our parents as they are, we stop carrying what isn’t ours. And we regain the freedom to live our lives the way we choose. • • • • • In this course we will talk about: What do we receive from our parents and what do they form within us?How inability to accept our parents the way they are affects our lives and the choices we make?What happens in our lives when we fell resentment, anger, shame, hurt and disappointment towards them?What is a family system and how does it work?What are my family dynamics?Why have I created my life that is exactly like my mothers or fathers?What happens if me and my mother are more like friends than mother and daughter?What happens if me and my mother are more like friends than mother and daughter?What happens if I am like a mother to my mother?What happens if I am like a mother to my father?Why do I constantly have the feeling that something is missing in my life.Why do I feel deep unexplainable sadness and loneliness.Why do I constantly feel guilty even when there is no reason for me to feel that way.Why do I feel ashamed of myself and and cant accept myself the way I am?Why do I keep attracting people into my life that hurt me and how to change that?Why do I keep attracting people into my life that need saving and how to change that?Why do I lack in self-worth and allow people to treat me badly and how to change that?Why do I constantly want to prove myself to others and how to change that?Why do same scenarios keep repeating in my life?__________________________________ 1h 10min Video + Homework ***Once you purchuase the couse - an email will be sent with the link to the course and the password. ****** If you do not receive the link please email at <a href="https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/online-course-accepting-your-parents-tickets-895557916837?aff=oddtdtcreator" title="https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/online-course-accepting-your-parents-tickets-895557916837?aff=oddtdtcreator">info@inetamas.com</a> ***